Random Randomness

Quick survey... Try to be as objective as possible. Excerpt from email to person that knows parts so parts may be left out...

-Your new girlfriend has told you how much of an @$$ her ex is and how abusive he was towards her, she invites him to her house to hang out when you are not around and will not be around to hang out for multiple hours even though you asked her to both not hang out with him and if she was to see him to take a friend along.
-You come back from a weekend trip. You go up and hang out with her as soon as you get back. She is happy to see you. You go home the next morning. She calls you from work to see if you are planning to come to town. When you say "Probably not" she is like, "ok I understand", same way she said it on day her ex came over. You throw out the idea that you may come down, and then she is like "oh, I may be hanging out with darci, so if your coming down let me know so I can be home." Your vague in your answer but ask her to call if she is going out so that you don’t show up with her not there. Ok bye, talk to you tomorrow. You clean up and leave, heading down cause you don’t want the commute in the morning. Oh wait, "To start the second call off she was like I hate mall people. I was like what, and she is like "People think I am hitting on random guys." You ask her why she thinks that. She says her boss is like you were hitting on guys and asking them out but they turned you down. She was like what do you mean who told you that, and the boss wouldn’t tell her" That is what she said... So you are like ok, that’s weird why would he say that, she was like "I don’t know, I hate mall people." Also note "Marcus" has been brought up a few times in the last few times you talk to her, he being a friend you never met and up till before you left you had not heard of. Now he has came up multiple times and also in the sense of he was hanging with her multiple time while you were gone. So back to heading down to her place. You arrive. She is excited to see you. You ask why, she states she called an hour prior and since you were not home she figured you were coming over. You think to yourself, I told her she only needed to call if she was going and not going to be home. She mentions nothing of darci calling making plans but having to cancel them when she couldn’t get ahold of you. You try to let it go. She immediately wants to do you. You are not going to complain but confused about this sudden rush of excitement. After having an excursion she takes a bath. She calls you in. You are not interested in talking but she is persistent. She starts up on the boss and how he was saying she was hitting on guys. Your like "You are very upset about this, Why?" "Well my boss said that I should not be hanging out with guys and that it is wrong for me to have guy friends. What do you think?" You choose to not answer her clearly, but make it known that you are willing to deal with the fact she has male friend, but are comfortable with her trying to hang out with random guys. She is still upset on the verge of tears and you are thinking what the heck. She keeps trying to bring it up. But doesn’t really say anything.
-Lunch time. You go to visit as you do daily. She claimed in the morning, that she would have a lunch for you. You get in the store and she says she doesn’t. Your like ok fine. You go get lunch, upon return she is chatting it up with guy across the mall from her in the middle. You stroll up and not too bothered as you know homeboy. However conversation is not interrupted by your arrival. She gets customers so she has to walk away. You talk to boy about stuff but just bs'ing. As customers leave a dude walks up. She chats with him outside the store, then takes it into the store. They chat for like 15 mins as she knows you are waiting to say bye. Her and dude keep looking over as if they are talking about you. Finally she calls you over. you go over and wait for her to finish chatting, awkward silence, dudes says bye see ya later and leaves. Girl finally looks at you and is like "what you doing tonight, you going to call?" Your like sure, and go to leave as you are just feeling third leg to random dudes. She is like "no talk to me. are you mad?" You state you are late and want to go. She keeps pushing for you to stay and talk but you know that it is not something she will easily understand and customers will probably interrupt. So you push to leave.
- So do you take it as all random consequences and not something to be upset about? Or do you accept the fact you are tired of drama, and just let her know that whether or not she is hitting on other guys you really just don’t want to be part of it? Or do you sit her down and set rules and risk upsetting her by being that type of controlling which realistically you do not want to be, but are feeling forced to by her and her actions?