So I may or may not have been rash in my decision to post that email. As it turns out I had just been looking for something to get me back into posting and my friends email gave me that opportunity. I do however regret it now as I feel that everybody deserves a chance to defend themselves. My friend replied with an unsure answer to my questions, but he brought up some things I hadn’t told him yet. After I wrote those to him I got two words back from him, "Dump her..." So with that I felt I was justified. See My friend has always been an objective opinion and over all the years I have known him he has always questioned my judgement and defended the girls. And to be honest in the past I might have overreacted to things girls had said and done. This time he has been defending me the whole way through. See the things I left out of the email but sent to him do I feel justify his response and my indecision. It is harder for me to give it up as I am for the most part happy with her. What I am unhappy about is how naive she is. She doesn’t realize that guys are hitting on her and trying to be guys... She thinks that it is all innocent and that the guys could not be interested in her since she is "taken". Well that and the fact she has made a number of bad decisions. The biggest of which in my mind would be the having the ex over to her house and not telling me about it. See that was one of those times where I assumed I was being a jealous boyfriend when I got into the car after her acting weird to me on the phone. I drove to her house and found her ex's car outside. How I let her talk me into staying with her is beyond me at this point. Maybe the fact she did not take any time answering the door and her clothes were not messed up... Then again it took me an hour to get there so she had plenty of warning I was coming. I was forgiving that round. This round the coincidences are just getting too convincing. I think the point I am at is very simple, I don’t need the stress. Whether she is being good or not, I rather not have to worry about it. We (me and her) talked a bunch last night. In the process we forgot to eat dinner so we went to a local restaurant. The girl helping us at the restaurant was very nice, but shortly after arriving began flirting with me. At first I was thinking she was just being nice, but then she started giving me flirting type looks, saying things and saying them in a way that was obvious she was hitting on me. It even got to the point were she was ignoring the girl I was with and when she came up to refill my cherry lemonade which she did like 6 or 7 times even if it was barely empty, she wouldn’t even look at the girl I was with. Just me. She was extra helpful only to things I requested and did them before anything else, and if my girl asked her for anything, such as a butter knife or a box, it was ignored. We never saw the knife that night and the box only came because I brought it up to the girl when the girl I was with went to get change. Now you are probably wondering why I would waste a paragraph just to try to justify that the girl was hitting on me. Oh and by the way the girl I was with saw it and actually started getting mean towards the girl and all defensive. The reason for the paragraph is this, I should not deal with unnecessary stress for someone who doesn’t even realize that having (recent) ex's over to her house to hang out for house for hour is wrong. I can find another girl, one who can respect me. If I was single the least I would have got last night was a phone number, and to be honest the girl may have been hotter then the girl I was with. Why should I hang out only to be hurt sometime in the future. Well that is that and the decision is made.
